{"id":1094,"date":"2020-02-01T16:40:12","date_gmt":"2020-02-01T16:40:12","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/hopetheparentteacher.com\/?p=1094"},"modified":"2020-02-01T16:56:42","modified_gmt":"2020-02-01T16:56:42","slug":"setting-boundaries-lessons-from-nature","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/hopetheparentteacher.com\/?p=1094","title":{"rendered":"Setting Boundaries: Lessons from Nature"},"content":{"rendered":"

Last Saturday, we drove over to\u00a0Jasmine Hill Gardens<\/a>\u00a0for “Attracting Backyard Wildlife” by Mercedes Bartkovich, Nongame Wildlife Biologist.<\/p>\n

Ms. Mercedes led the attendees through constructing wooden bird houses and\u00a0suet<\/a>\u00a0after she delivered a well researched talk.<\/p>\n

\"JS1\"<\/a>\"Birdhouse\"<\/a><\/p>\n

\"JS2\"<\/a>\"JS3\"<\/a><\/p>\n

She shared fantastic information to consider in her talk.\u00a0 One was the statistic that 2.4 million birds are killed annually by cats.\u00a0 \u00a0Her solution?\u00a0 “If you’re going to have cats outside place feeders up high where cats cannot get on top and near bushes so there is escape and cover nearby.”\u00a0 Hmm that sounds like establishing more realistic boundaries than the popular advice to\u00a0keep cats inside.<\/a><\/p>\n

I love cats.\u00a0 I grew up with one really special one.\u00a0 I think the photos<\/p>\n

\"Osb1\"<\/a><\/p>\n

\"Osb2\"<\/a><\/p>\n

explain why.\u00a0 She was beautiful, cute, and fun.\u00a0 Three character traits that can seduce and need to be guarded against.\u00a0 Because she also was the neighbor hood terror to birds, mice, and chipmunks.<\/p>\n

Let me clarify.\u00a0 She didn’t seduce her prey, but she did seduce us into allowing her to do whatever she wanted which led to a never ending battle with fleas and tape worms.\u00a0 \u00a0It was the late 1970’s.\u00a0 Back then the veterinarian advised she be given to a farm since we just couldn’t keep her inside and he didn’t want to keep injecting her with the poisons to eliminate the unwanted pests.\u00a0 It was a heart break.\u00a0 Did we really have to part with our beloved family pet?<\/p>\n

Saying goodbye to certain toxic relationships is one of the hottest topic to talk, write, and blog about these days.\u00a0 Is completely getting rid of certain relationships the answer? My cat brought much pleasure into our lives.\u00a0 To give her away hurt us almost as much as her fleas and tape worms.\u00a0 Aren’t many of our personal relationships similar to my family’s with our cat?\u00a0 Limits, boundaries, and consequences I believe are the answer.\u00a0 Unfortunately, like many of you, I’ve had to learn the hard way.<\/p>\n

Post-modern western culture seduces so easily by beauty and cute. “Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting…”\u00a0 \u00a0Proverbs 31:30<\/a>\u00a0warns.\u00a0 Yet the visual, fast pace, click a button culture continues to be blinded by visual looks.\u00a0 We’re also humored too much by charm and cute behaviors.<\/p>\n

Matthew chapter 7<\/a>\u00a0has become one of my “go to” passages to remind myself of what Jesus admonished.\u00a0 It’s ironic that the whole point of the teaching is to evaluate other’s behavior in order to be\u00a0shrewd as snakes and as innocent as doves<\/a>\u00a0, but that the start of the chapter becomes the hallmark passage of tolerance and do not judge.\u00a0 \u00a0Indeed one needs to have good boundaries regarding how scriptures are taught as well.\u00a0 \u00a0(I recommend\u00a0Untwisting Scriptures<\/a>\u00a0for more on this.)<\/p>\n

Back to the dangers of “cute.”\u00a0 Too many parents, relatives, and friends laugh at children’s attention seeking behaviors when the children really need to be disciplined.\u00a0 I highly recommend addition reading further below on this topic.<\/p>\n

Many in dating relationships wind up in hurtful relationships because good looking dates and funny cute behavior were never limited to start out with.\u00a0 \u00a0Sometime it happens in friendship and business.\u00a0 The point is, we all need to develop good emotional boundaries in order to respect self and others.<\/p>\n

Further reading:\u00a0Surprising reasons why we need to discipline children<\/a>.<\/p>\n

#Boundaries #Healing #Relationships #Disciplinechildren<\/p>\n

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Last Saturday, we drove over to\u00a0Jasmine Hill Gardens\u00a0for “Attracting Backyard Wildlife” by Mercedes Bartkovich, Nongame Wildlife Biologist. Ms. Mercedes led the attendees through constructing wooden bird houses and\u00a0suet\u00a0after she delivered a well researched talk. She shared fantastic information to consider in her talk.\u00a0 One was the statistic that 2.4 million birds are killed annually by … Continue reading Setting Boundaries: Lessons from Nature<\/span> →<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":1095,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1094","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/hopetheparentteacher.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1094","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/hopetheparentteacher.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/hopetheparentteacher.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/hopetheparentteacher.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/hopetheparentteacher.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=1094"}],"version-history":[{"count":20,"href":"https:\/\/hopetheparentteacher.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1094\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1120,"href":"https:\/\/hopetheparentteacher.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1094\/revisions\/1120"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/hopetheparentteacher.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/1095"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/hopetheparentteacher.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=1094"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/hopetheparentteacher.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=1094"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/hopetheparentteacher.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=1094"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}