Have you ever noticed that some children don’t ever want to grow up and others can’t wait to? \u00a0In my observation, \u00a0the pattern that emerges is children who are overly doted upon in ways the please them are often the children who don’t want to grow up. \u00a0This may look OK or not too harmful at first. \u00a0After all, look at what a good mommy or daddy is making sure Jack and\/or Jill’s needs are met.<\/p>\n
The economy benefits when Daddy, Auntie, Grandma, or whoever spend to little Johnny’s heart is content. \u00a0The problem is that apparent satisfaction that Johnny displays is far from content and usually dissipates into another tirade for something else that he wants.<\/p>\n
Another difficulty is Mommy, Uncle, Grandpa, or whoever isn’t meeting Jack or Jill’s needs at all. \u00a0They are meeting their own needs. Isn’t this the greatest temptation of parenting, to try to fix or get what we didn’t in our lives through our children’s? \u00a0Whoa now, \u00a0that’s subconsciously selfish and misguided. \u00a0If we were going to stoop to name calling we’d yell\u00a0parentification!<\/a><\/p>\n But that’s name calling. \u00a0And that’s mean. \u00a0Look we all suffered from some sort of disappointment, failure,difficulty or life growing up. \u00a0In no way do I want to discount any pain you experienced growing up. \u00a0That would express\u00a0indifference<\/a>\u00a0which is just as wrong as name calling.<\/p>\n What I’m after is we need to stop justifying the wrong approach most of us are taking to get our needs met. \u00a0No, it’s not providing us the\u00a0happy heart<\/a>\u00a0that we think it is. \u00a0It’s\u00a0insanity<\/a>\u00a0according to Albert Einstein.<\/p>\n Rather what I’m advocating is that you examine your heart.\u00a0The motivation behind what powers an individual varies. It is as different as the individual him\/herself. To complicate this,\u00a0It’s a \u00a0hard knock life!<\/a>\u00a0Because of it we may have ourselves deceived into thinking that we’re doing something for someone’s good when we’ve really\u00a0deceived<\/a>\u00a0ourselves. \u00a0Now that we have the diagnosis of what’s wrong, let’s get the right prognosis!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Have you ever noticed that some children don’t ever want to grow up and others can’t wait to? \u00a0In my observation, \u00a0the pattern that emerges is children who are overly doted upon in ways the please them are often the children who don’t want to grow up. \u00a0This may look OK or not too harmful … Continue reading Why Growing Up is Hard to Do<\/span>